Hi everyone! ( ^_^ ) How have you been? I'm doing fine.
This time I'm going to talk about how I face my trauma (the one I got sexually assaulted). The process of healing is different for everyone, but this method may help you too.
I learn to face my trauma by talking about it with someone or people I trust; people who make time in order to listen to my worries and my story. Sometimes, I tell them clearly about my expectations and goals before telling them my story. The way I tell my story to someone is each time a little bit different. Sometimes, I tell my story in big lines or I tell it in details. And if I don't want to talk to someone; I write it down without checking my spelling/grammar mistakes. I just write down (in a journal, of course) what comes into my mind. It is very important to have a place where no one/nothing can distract or disturb you.
Next thing that may help you too is reading the experiences of the other victims who have conquered their trauma. And if you can't really do it on your own or with the help of other people (like friends and family); you need to go to a professional. And if you don't wish to go to a professional, then it's your decision. No one can oblige you to go, because the consideration of your feelings is very important. But there's one thing I can guarantee you; in order to be able to process your trauma, you need to face it.
(For the people who has someone who's a victim too: Please, be patient. In order to convince the victim to go to a professional; that person needs to feel completely safe. The victim is unable to make rational decisions when he/she is mentally unstable (e.g. severe depression with panic attacks, ...).)
I know that our past has an impact on our current self. I lost my childhood when I got assaulted and lived as a different person after that; a person who thought that the world is a dangerous place. And I still think like that at some point. I have constantly doubted about my real identity and I'm still doubting about it...
( ^_^' )
Much Love and Kisses!
